Trauma/Healing 4

Trauma . . . . . . can be an isolating experience. Healing . . . . . . happens most fully in relationships. From "A New Normal: Ten Things I've Learned About Trauma" by Catherine Woodiwiss

By | May 18th, 2015|0 Comments

“Ten Things I’ve Learned About Trauma” – by Catherine Woodiwiss

List articles are popular on the internet, some more helpful than others. Catherine Woodiwiss’ “A New Normal: Ten Things I’ve Learned About Trauma” from the Sojouners website is better than most I’ve found on the subject. Catherine has done a good job of translating her experiences with trauma into wisdom [...]

By | May 16th, 2015|0 Comments

Trauma/Healing 3

Trauma . . . . . . is a hidden epidemic. Healing . . . . . . is possible.

By | May 11th, 2015|0 Comments

Self-Pity and Grief

I had an almost identical word-for-word exchange with two of my patients last week. Both of these patients experienced significant early childhood deprivation and abuse. Both continue to be haunted by the pain from their distant pasts and yet they cut themselves off from feeling that pain.   This is [...]

By | May 7th, 2015|0 Comments

Trauma/Healing 2

Trauma . . . . . . is not a disease. Healing . . . . . . is not a cure.

By | May 4th, 2015|0 Comments

Good Parent, Bad Parent

Last week I wrote about reparenting in psychotherapy. I’ve used it as part of my practice since the beginning, about 45 years ago. Reparenting places a sizable burden of responsibility on a therapist, because it means committing in every way to being a loving parent to often deeply troubled people. [...]

By | April 30th, 2015|0 Comments

Trauma/Healing 1

Trauma . . . . . . is a visible or invisible wound. Healing . . . . . .repairs the wound, but there will always be a scar.

By | April 27th, 2015|0 Comments


I think the best description of how I approach being a psychotherapist is to say that I “re-parent” my patients.   When I was training in psychotherapy in the 70s, reparenting was part of the classic model. I believe our profession has moved away from taking on this role but [...]

By | April 23rd, 2015|0 Comments


Families of service members killed in the line of duty have suffered the ultimate loss of their loved ones. Their sons or daughters, husbands or wives, fathers or mothers, will never come home. Their loss and grief are real and tangible. But many families of service members who do return [...]

By | April 16th, 2015|0 Comments

A PTSD Scenario – and a Support Group

A veteran and his wife sleep side by side in their darkened bedroom. The man moves restlessly under the covers. The woman, long familiar with his insomnia and night terrors, is somewhat conscious of his rising agitation. Something happens. It might be a sound from the external world – a [...]

By | April 9th, 2015|0 Comments